“I remember Gerard always wore these cowboy boots, and my little heart would beat faster when I’d hear him coming down to my room,” she says. Sophie was four when her stepfather, Gerard, started to sexually abuse her.

If we are to keep children safe we may have to gain a new understanding of the problem and make some unpalatable changes to the way we deal with it. Our current image of child sex abusers in Ireland, and our approach to them, may be putting young people at risk. A family member who abuses is always a family member, and how does the family cope with that?” “There’s a lot of focus on priests, rightfully: the abuse and the cover-up were despicable. I think people need to find the language to talk, at home and in schools, about good and bad intimacy. “Now I have a good relationship with my mum, but during my 20s she seemed to downplay it. “I looked at him and thought, Nobody knows you’re a sex offender on a treatment programme.” Illustration: Dearbhla KellyĬhild sex abuse: family therapy for abusers can reduce reoffending. When I told her what had happened she thought I was confused.Ĭhild sex abuse: “This morning a well-dressed man got on the bus,” says Eileen Finnegan of One in Four. When I was 18 my mum brought me to a psychiatrist. I carried self-loathing, humiliation, fear and shame. “During my teens there was a deep and profound sadness that I couldn’t shake, so I drank a lot and took drugs. It went on for about three years, until shortly after my dad died. He told me that if I ever told anyone we would both go to prison. “It began with gentle interference but, over time, became more serious and specific. “I was about eight when my brother started coming into my room,” James says.

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